“There will always be men more attractive than your husband, and there will be someone who seems to have all the strengths that your husband lacks.”

By Juli Slattery

The stereotype of an adulterous affair in marriage has typically been the picture of a cheating husband. The man has a one-night stand on a business trip or falls in love with his secretary. I guess it never occurred to us that for every cheating man, there must also be a cheating woman.

Relationship expert Bonnie Eaker Weil reported on ABCs 20/20 her findings that more than 50 percent of married women are sexually unfaithful. That statistic doesnt take into consideration the countless others who are entangled in emotional affairs and fantasies.

Every married woman is at risk for an affair. If you say, No, Id never do that! take to heart what Paul wrote, If you think you are standing firm, be careful that you dont fall! (1 Corinthians 10:12).

Every affair begins with a temptationan attraction. Unfortunately, most of us have no idea what to do when a man other than your husband starts to pay attention to you. It feels good to be pursued again, especially if your marriage is in the doldrums.

Right after Paul told us to be careful not to fall, he gave some very practical advice about how to handle temptation: No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it” (1 Corinthians 10:13, NIV).

While temptation is unavoidable, sin is still inexcusable. Even if you feel overwhelmingly attracted to another man (or woman), unfaithfulness doesnt have to be your destiny. God has promised to provide a way out for those who are willing to run to him.

Dont Be Surprised When It Happens

How many affairs would be avoided if we would simply anticipate that its normal to be tempted? Yes,The day will likely come when you find yourself drawn to someone who appears to be better suited for you than your husband. The attraction can even be spiritual (for example, a mans passion for the Lord is so attractive compared to your husband who seems to be spiritually dead).

Since you know this day will come, prepare for it now. Remember in elementary school all of the times you had a fire drill or tornado drill? Why do we have drills? To prepare for a real danger during a time that is not a crisis. Using that same wisdom, come up with a plan now of what you will do when temptation comes. How will you respond? Who will you call for help?

Do you have an accountability partner in place now? What woman in your life have you told, You have permission to ask me the hard questions about my marriage. I want you to get in my face if you ever see something in my life that concerns you.

Just like the fire drill, if you have already determined where to run, you wont be paralyzed when a true danger threatens your marriage.

Remember Whats Real

I had been meeting with Lisa for about two months before she spilled the beans. During our first several counseling sessions, she talked around her disappointment in marriage and other irritations of life. Then, the day came when she felt safe enough to tell me about Doug. They had met at the gym several months earlier and been drawn to each other immediately. Low and behold, Doug was a Christian! Lisa and Doug began coincidentally showing up at the gym at the same time and got to know each other. Eventually, they began meeting over coffee.

Juli, Doug is so kind and sensitive! He loves the Lord and has really helped me grow in my faith. God knows how lonely Ive been in my marriage. I believe hes providing Doug as an answer to my prayer for true companionship.

Okay . . . reality check. God will never answer your prayers by inviting you into sin. How could a grounded Christian woman like Lisa have gotten so far off base? Because Satan is the deceiver. He will tempt you to doubt the truth about what is good and what is evil.

God has equipped our bodies with very powerful hormones that kick in when we enter a new romantic relationship. Remember when you could go days without thinking about food or when you wrote your boyfriends name all over your geometry notebook? Your mind still has the capacity to experience puppy love even as a grown woman.

The tingles of a new relationship can and will blind you from reality. If you do not fight to find true north according to Gods Word, you will make a disastrous decision that has far-reaching consequences. No matter how much you believe that this man will make your life better, he will not. No amount of money, great sex, or adoration can compensate for walking away from fellowship with God and representing Jesus Christ to your husband, children, and community.

Run Fast

There is a time to walk and then there is a time to run. No one casually strolls out of burning building. They run for their lives. Paul says sexual temptation represents a time to run. Flee sexual temptation! Joseph demonstrated what fleeing looks like. He literally ran away from Potiphars wife when she tried to seduce him. He didnt stop to deliberate the consequences or figure out how he could keep the woman happy while not going all the way. He simply ran.

Theres no harm in a little flirting, you might think. Yes, there is great harm! The longer you linger in temptation, the more opportunity the Enemy has to deceive you.

What does running look like? It means not giving the relationship any chance of developing. If you have to, change jobs, move to another neighborhood, and absolutely refuse to be alone with the person who represents the temptation.

Ask for Help

One of the most dangerous things to do when you are attracted to another man is to keep it a secret. You may be embarrassed to admit to a friend your secret crush, or you may be afraid that being honest will mean you have to give it up.

In some cases, I think its appropriate to tell you husband. Honey, I just need you to know that there is a guy at work who Ive commit to never being alone with. Nothing has happened, but I just sense its a danger zone. It would be very difficult for an attraction to take root after this type of honest conversation.

If you do not believe it is wise to talk to your husband, please share the situation with a trusted friend or mentor. She can pray with you, give you solid advice, and ask you the tough questions about whether or not you are taking the way of escape or continuing to play with fire.

Invest in Your Marriage

If youve ever had a serious health concern, it probably changed the way you approached your health. A near-fatal heart attack will cause most of us to swear off cheeseburgers and cigarettes. The same should be true of how we respond to the possibility of a broken marriage. It should cause us to reexamine what weve begun to take for granted.

I know youve heard this statement, but its worth repeating: The grass is greener wherever you water it. Being attracted to another man is not only a temptation, but also an indication that perhaps your marriage needs some watering. Its a wake-up call that your marriage is vulnerable to infidelity. Can you pinpoint what desires you have that are not being met in your marriage?

Maybe its time to invest in marriage counseling, get away for some time alone with your spouse, or work on romance and sexual satisfaction in your marriage. Even if you are married to an unresponsive husband who doesnt have a strong desire to improve your marriage, how are you investing in the relationship? Do you pray daily for God to give you love and patience? Are you intentional about learning how to build intimacy, as far as it depends upon you?

Although investing in your marriage is an important way to respond to a temptation, investing in your relationship with God is even more important. There are some who believe that the greatest weapon against an affair is a strong marriage. I disagree. The greatest weapons against a spiritual threat (and temptation is a always a spiritual threat) is a spiritual weapon.

Paul told us specifically how to arm ourselves against the schemes of the devil. He told us to be clothed with the armor of Godarmor like the breastplate of righteousness, the belt of truth, the shield of faith, and the sword of the spirit.

My friend, never try to fight a spiritual temptation solely with emotional or psychological weapons. You will lose. Gods way of escape is to cling to him and to run to him. He is able to keep you from stumbling, and to make you stand in the presence of his glory blameless with great joy (Jude 24).

If I remain faithful throughout the duration of my marriage, it wont simply be because I love my husband, but it will be because of how much I love the Lord. Clinging to Mike might keep me from wandering, but only clinging to Jesus can make my heart pure.

The name of the LORD is a fortified tower; the righteous run to it and are safe(Proverbs 18:10).

**This post appeared originally on Authentic Intimacy.

About the Author:Dr. Juli Slattery is a widely known clinical psychologist, author, speaker and broadcast media professional, with a weekly podcast called Java with Juli. Julis commitment to biblical principles,relatable style, and quick wit have made her a highly sought-after speaker to womens groups. Juli served as the co-host of the Focus on the Family daily broadcast from 2010-2012. She then sensed the Lord calling her to leave her position at Focus to co-found a women’s media ministry focusing on intimacy in marriage & intimacy with Christ.

Dr. Juli Slattery is the co-founder of Authentic Intimacy, an international non-profit designed to minister to women on topics around intimacy. Her books include Surprised by the Healer, Pulling Back the Shades, Passion Pursuit: What Kind of Love Are You Making?, Beyond the Masquerade, No More Headaches, and Finding the Hero In Your Husband. She currently sits on the board of trustees for Moody Bible Institute.

Juli and her husband Mike have been married for more than 20 years, and are raising their three boys in Colorado Springs; where Juli can be found playing in the mountains and trying to manage her addiction to soy lattes.

Read more: http://www.faithit.com/when-youre-attracted-somone-not-your-spouse-juli-slattery/

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It’s the beginning of a new year — a year filled with so many opportunities and possibilities.

It’s a time for a change and, at your age, you know exactly what change you want to make. Sure, you’ve told yourself time and time again you would make this change, but due to pesky little things like FOMO and peer pressure, you just haven’t been able to do it.

Have you figured out what change I’m referring to? That’s right — going out.

It doesn’t matter if it’s clubbing or just a “casual” bar (because everyone knows that no night is casual when alcohol is involved), we’ve been over this for months and even years, but we haven’t done a damn thing about it.

But the time has come that we realize it’s not normal to rock a mini dress in January and you shouldn’t still be trying to figure out how to pace yourself (it’s okay, I still am).

“But all my friends are going out I don’t want to be the loser,” you say to yourself every single weekend, which — of course — will only be followed by a brutal hangover the next day.

Well, you know what actually makes you a loser? Going out just for the sake of it, and then beating yourself up over it the next day as you hug the toilet bowl for hours.

So if you still need more convincing on why it’s better to stay in than it is to go out, here you go…

1. You don’t gain excessive weight or bloat


And you know what that means… more calories to spend on foods you do actually like as you won’t be wasting any empty calories on alcohol.

Also: You won’t be making poor food choices in a blacked-out state. I mean, it’s not like you would ever soberly inhale two pies of pizza… would you?

2. You wake up not regretting every decision you made the night before


You didn’t go out, didn’t f*ck up and, as a result, you regret absolutely nothing! You know when you’re filled with regrets?

When you spend the entire night ripping tequila shots. Now you can trade those in for a nice date with Netflix.

3. You’re more productive on the weekend


Everyone knows that terrible feeling on Saturdays and Sundays when you wake up miserably hungover. You lie and lie and suddenly it’s 5 pm and you realize you haven’t even left your apartment yet.

For someone who works a five-day work week, wouldn’t you want to make the most of your free time instead of wasting it away?

4. You save a sh*t ton of money


When you’re not waving around your Chase blue debit card and buying shots for strangers with nice shoes, you actually have enough money so you don’t have to choose between paying rent and eating.

5. You save friendships by avoiding drunk fights over where to get pizza


What’s the fastest way to ruin a friendship? That’s easy: get in a fight over the stupidest things while you and your friend are wasted.

Neither of you will really remember what happened and no one is going to apologize.

6. You don’t have to wonder what things you did or said because you weren’t blacked out


You know exactly what you did because you stayed in! There is no anxiety or stress over things you may or may not have said because you avoided the entire situation.

If that isn’t reason enough not to go out, then I don’t know what is.

7. You definitely won’t be waking up to 60 tagged photos of you looking like Amanda Bynes


Everyone is all too familiar with that little ping of panic when your Facebook notifies you about some newly tagged photos. Photos?! You don’t even remember the night, the last thing you need to look at is photographic evidence.

8. You save the few remaining brain cells you do have


The reason so many people dread Monday mornings isn’t really because of their jobs, it’s because they spent the past two nights binge-drinking and living in a state of hungoverness.

9. You don’t actively destroy your kidneys, liver and immune system


The more you drink, the more susceptible you make yourself to illness. And ain’t nobody got time to deal with the common cold.

10. Your relatives won’t think you need to go to AA


Your family dinners will now go from interventions to actual conversations! Thank God…

11. That really expensive leather coat you just bought won’t get lost


Bringing a jacket out with you at night is quite the difficult decision. You don’t know if the place you are going to will have coat check and you definitely don’t want to hold on to it the entire night.

Your drunk self will definitely think leaving your coat in the corner is an OK move, but your sober self knows much, much better.

12. And neither will your phone…

The video says it all.

13. You can guarantee you will wake up in your own bed


And whether you are alone or with company is completely up to your sober self.

14. You won’t have an unwarranted emotional breakdown


There’s nothing that destroys a night quite like a massive influx of tears. The worst part of that whole situation is the fact that whatever it is you’re upset about probably isn’t even that big of a deal.

Read more: http://elitedaily.com/women/infinitely-better-when-you-stop-going-out/897918/

International Women’s Day is always an occasion worth celebrating. This year, it’s especially important.

Less than two months removed from the massive worldwide Women’s March demonstration, women’s rights advocates and allies remain fired up and ready to go in the fight for gender equity. Amnesty International called International Women’s Day 2017 a “rallying cry,” organizers rallied in the name of a “Day Without a Woman” strike, and protesters around the globe once again took to the streets for marches and demonstrations.

Some groups used the day as an opportunity to brush up on a few facts about women.

And others used the occasion to highlight women and causes that don’t get the attention they deserve.

Like Katherine Johnson, an unsung hero who finally got her due in “Hidden Figures,” and Meagan Taylor, who reminds us that existence shouldn’t be a crime.

As shown in these 17 images, though, the most inspiring things to happen around the world in the name of International Women’s Day were the marches, the gatherings, the rallies, and the demonstrations.

Which were held everywhere from Yogyakarta, Indonesia…

…to Lviv, Ukraine.

Women marched in Hong Kong…

…and Santo Domingo, Dominican Republic.

People took to streets across the world, everywhere from Rome, Italy…

…to right here in Washington, D.C., U.S.A.

The pink pussy hats made a comeback in Copenhagen, Denmark…

…while crowds of marchers turned out in Los Angeles, California.

Flags and signs flew high over the crowds in Istanbul, Turkey…

…and were held proudly by marchers in Athens, Greece.

In New York, marchers, strikers, and protesters were ready to stand up for their rights.

New York cat cafe Koneko even held a Pussies Knit Back event where volunteers could come in to knit the now-ubiquitous “pussy hats.” The hats are available on their website (in both cat and human sizes), with proceeds going to Planned Parenthood.

Faces were painted in Madrid, Spain…

…and in Chennai, India…

….while women in San Salvador, El Salvador, delivered strongly worded messages.

Street artists helped spread the word in Marseille, France…

…and people in Melbourne, Australia, struck a pose.

The circumstances, the struggles, and the lived experiences of the women in these photos may vary, but there’s a very simple, very common thread: sisterhood.

International Women’s Day is a great opportunity to reflect on those differences and to consider how we can join forces to help make the world a better place for all women regardless of their race, religion, country of origin, disability, sexuality, or any of the other factors that can sometimes divide us unnecessarily. It’s a great day to set the foundation for future progress.

Read more: http://www.upworthy.com/17-stunning-photos-show-just-how-huge-international-womens-day-really-is

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Mitt Romney’s campaign might have chosen the wrong ally to back up his attack today on President Obama for leaking national security secrets.

Shortly after the candidate’s speech in Reno, Nevada, the Romney campaign sent out a press release citing former Under Secretary of Defense for Policy Eric Edelman, who is listed as an Romney campaign advisor.

“The suggestion by Senator Dianne Feinstein, chair of the Senate Intelligence Committee, that the White House was behind recent leaks of highly classified secrets, highlights the urgent need for change” Edelman said in the statement.

Edelman, however, was implicated in the country’s last major national security leak investigation — the outing of CIA agent Valerie Plame — during his time in the Bush administration.

Edelman served under former Vice President Dick Cheney in the 1990s. From February 2001 to June 2003, he worked as Principal Deputy Assistant to the Vice President for National Security Affairs, where he served directly under former Cheney aide Scooter Libby. According to the Justice Department, Edelman, identified as “Principal Deputy” in Scooter Libby’s indictment, originally suggested the idea to Libby to start leaking information about Joe Wilson’s trip to Niger.

The week after Edelman’s conversation with Libby, the Cheney aide infamously told New York Times reporter Judith Miller that Wilson’s wife might work for the CIA.

Edelman ended his work in Cheney’s office under Libby in July of 2003 and was named the US Ambassador to Turkey. Cheney swore him into office.

Read more: http://buzzfeed.com/andrewkaczynski/romney-advisor-who-hit-obama-on-leaks-was-involved

Godzilla, only the second film directed by Gareth Edwards, opened with $93.2 million. It’s one of the best-ever debuts for a filmmaker who’s never made a studio movie before.

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Godzilla rampaged through theaters this weekend, grossing an estimated $93.2 million, by far the best domestic debut for a Godzilla movie in the creature’s 60-year history. Success on this scale with such a venerated cinema icon would be a triumph for any filmmaker, but it is especially sweet for Godzilla’s director, Gareth Edwards. It’s only the second feature film he’s ever made, and the first with a studio budget — or a budget of any kind, really.

Edwards’ first film, 2010’s Monsters, won wide acclaim for wringing a taut, human-scaled monster movie from a reported $500,000 budget. Edwards not only directed that independently financed film, but also served as its writer, cinematographer, production designer, and sole visual effects artist.

Monsters grossed just $237,000 in the United States, and another $4 million internationally, but Edwards’ work caught the attention and respect of many within Hollywood. Just a few years ago, that would have been enough to land Edwards a gig at a studio directing a mid-budget, low-stakes thriller to prove himself capable of marshaling the small army necessary for a modern Hollywood production.

Instead, Legendary Pictures chief Thomas Tull — who produced Godzilla and co-financed it with Warner Bros. Pictures — chose to hand Edwards a reported $160 million budget and one of the most esteemed creative properties in cinema history, announcing his decision with high-profile panache at Comic-Con in 2012. It was an enormous gamble, especially considering that Godzilla’s monumental place in popular culture has never been reflected all that well at the American box office. (The less said of Roland Emmerich’s 1998 Godzilla, the better.)

Tull is not alone with this particular gamble, either. Studios have of late given the reins of mega-budgeted, high-stakes movies to truly untested filmmakers who have never before directed a Hollywood production, let alone one with a budget pushing well past $100 million. Sony did it with Marc Webb and its The Amazing Spider-Man reboot — Webb’s only previous feature credit was the well-received indie romance (500) Days of Summer. Warner Bros. did it with Noam Murro and 300: Rise of an Empire — Murro had only made the rather forgotten 2008 indie comedy Smart People. For 2012’s Snow White and the Huntsman and 2010’s TRON: Legacy, Universal and Disney respectively hired commercial directors with zero feature film experience: Rupert Sanders and Joseph Kosinski.

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The Amazing Spider-Man 2, TRON: Legacy, and 300: Rise of an Empire.

These directors come cheaper than more well-established filmmakers (from Christopher Nolan and Tim Burton to Zack Snyder and Michael Bay), and they are never close to being the most powerful person on the set. The results have been reasonable, if not overwhelming: Each of the resulting films performed modestly well at the box office, neither bankrupting the studio (thanks often to overseas revenues) nor breaking anything close to a significant box office record. Critical response has also been rather muted; the general consensus has been praise for each film’s sense of visual style mixed with censure for underdeveloped stories and characters and under-directed acting. (Reviews of Godzilla have been much the same.)

Sometimes, however, things have not even gone that well for a rookie director, like with 2014’s Robo-Cop (from Brazilian director José Padilha), 2013’s 47 Ronin (from commercial director Carl Rinsch), and 2012’s John Carter (from Pixar filmmaker Andrew Stanton, who was making his live-action debut). Each of those films reportedly suffered from their respective director’s inexperience with managing the ungainly bloat of a mega-budgeted movie, resulting in bad press and an even worse box office.

Tellingly, the studio that has had the best luck with (relatively) untested directors has been Marvel Studios, which has something of a fixation with hiring directors with little experience at the helm of hugely scaled productions. The operative word here, however, is “little,” not “zero.” Anthony and Joe Russo may not have ever made an action film at the scale of Captain America: The Winter Soldier, but they had a studio comedy (2006’s Me, You, and Dupree) under their belt, as well as many episodes of comedies like Arrested Development and Happy Endings.

Alan Taylor made his feature directing debut with Thor: The Dark World, but he’d also directed several episodes of HBO’s Game of Thrones (as well as The Sopranos and Deadwood), so he certainly knew from orchestrating sprawling productions. Shane Black had only directed 2005’s action comedy Kiss Kiss, Bang Bang before making Iron Man 3, but he was also the screenwriter of several of the biggest movies of the late 1980s and early 1990s (especially the Lethal Weapon films) — he understood the rhythms and spectacle needed for a Hollywood action movie. And, of course, while Joss Whedon’s only previous feature was the modestly budgeted Serenity in 2005, he’d put in many years directing episodes of Firefly, Angel, and Buffy the Vampire Slayer — there were few filmmakers alive better equipped to handle the tangled ensemble of The Avengers.

With Hollywood making fewer and fewer smaller-scaled “proving ground” movies, it is perhaps an inevitable development than more and more films at the scale of Godzilla will be given to filmmakers who have never attempted directing anything like it before. Case in point: Disney’s Maleficent, the feature directing debut of visual effects artist and production designer Robert Stromberg (Avatar, Oz the Great and Powerful), debuts later this month. And so far this year, it appears to be working: The top three biggest opening weekends of 2014 — Captain America: The Winter Soldier, Godzilla, and The Amazing Spider-Man 2 — were all made by directors with precious few credits to their name.

Here are the estimated top 10 box office figures for Friday to Sunday, courtesy of Box Office Mojo:

1. Godzilla* — $93.2 million2. Neighbors — $26 million3. The Amazing Spider-Man 2 — $16.8 million4. Million Dollar Arm* — $10.5 million5. The Other Woman — $6.3 million6. Heaven is for Real — $4.4 million7. Rio 2 — $3.8 million8. Captain America: The Winter Soldier — $3.8 million9. Legends of Oz: Dorothy’s Return — $2 million10. Moms’ Night Out — $1.9 million

*Opening weekend

Read more: http://buzzfeed.com/adambvary/godzilla-gareth-edwards-box-office

When DesignCrowd held a contest who could come up with the best re-creation of a celebrity as a hipster, they got 98 designers to submit 195 fabulous hipster versions of our favorite stars…

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The winning entry was from Free Imagination, whose hipster Leonardo DiCaprio is pictured above.

But there were plenty of other celebrities who were given skinny jeans, thick-frame glasses, beards, and various tattoos. Here are a few of our favorites…

Megan Fox

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Cate Blanchett

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Christian Bale

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Meryl Streep

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Read more: http://twentytwowords.com/celebrities-hilariously-photoshopped-look-like-hipsters-15-pictures/

1. Science boffins have invented a new kind of martini – and it has moisture from the Cabinet War Rooms’ walls in it.

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2. During WW2 the Cabinet War Rooms – which are buried 10ft beneath Whitehall – were used as a military command centre.

Churchill made four broadcasts to the nation from them, and he often slept there during bombing raids when it was too dangerous to get to Downing Street.

“Nearly everybody smoked,” stenographer Joy Hunter told the Telegraph “so it was a very smoky atmosphere.”

3. And now the moisture from the walls has been extracted in order to create bitters for a martini.

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The bitters, which have been created by the Experimental Food Society and the Robin Collective, also include cigar tobacco, British orchard fruits, berries, nuts and rosehip, to represent the roses that Churchill’s wife sent to him daily.

The war rooms martini will be available from 1st November at the Churchill Bar & Terrace at Hyatt Regency London. It will cost £15.


Read more: http://buzzfeed.com/tabathaleggett/you-can-order-a-martini-with-moisture-from-churchills-bunker

If you grew up in the 90s, you grew up with these American Girl dolls. Find out which one tops them all.

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12. Marie-Grace & Cecile Rey, 1853

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AG Description: “Follow the unforgettable journey of Marie-Grace Gardner and Cécile Rey as they form an unlikely bond in their hometown of New Orleans. When sickness spreads through the city, these newfound friends learn to count on each other as they use courage and compassion to help those in need.”

Why: I don’t trust that these two dolls were released as one unit. Why can’t they be strong, independent women by themselves? But still, they’re reppin’ #NOLA, so they can’t be all that bad.

11. Caroline, 1812

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AG Description: “As the War of 1812 begins, so does the story of Caroline Abbott’s bravery. She loves sailing with her father, but when he’s captured, Caroline must help keep the family’s shipyard running. When she sees a chance to rescue her father, Caroline discovers that she must use her mind and heart to guide her decisions.”

Why: Let’s be honest, Caroline just sounds like a total snooze.

10. Julie, 1974

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AG Description: “In the 1970s, girls experienced all kinds of changes, and Julie’s story highlights many of them. She’s facing several challenges all at once—she’s moving away from her best friend, Ivy, starting over in a new home, and dealing with new issues at school. But with creativity and optimism, Julie learns to make a few changes of her own.”

Why: I’m not kidding when I say I actually thought of and wrote a draft of this story in my fourth grade Writer’s Workshop. Except I made Ivy the main character (I was offended they had yet to have an American Girl of Asian descent on the roster), and named her April. Out of sheer principle, Julie can’t be any higher on this list because she stole April’s story.

9. Rebecca, 1914

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AG Description: “Many girls during Rebecca’s time lived in two worlds—the one their families came from and the America they all came to together. Rebecca loves to celebrate the traditions of her Russian-Jewish family, but she’s also excited about the new customs of New York City. With a little creativity, she learns how to stay true to her heart as she follows her dreams.”

Why: I think I like Rebecca because I imagine that she could have been friends with Tateh’s daughter from the musical Ragtime. She seems like a cool gal, but she came after my time, so I’m still a little skeptical.

8. Kaya, 1764

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AG Description: “Discover the adventurous story of Kaya, a member of the Nez Perce. Her people depend on one another for survival, so after putting her little brothers in danger, Kaya is given an insulting nickname. When enemy raiders invade her camp, Kaya learns from her mistakes by drawing strength from the stories and lessons of her elders.”

Why: Kaya entered into the American Girl world as I started my exit out, so we always had somewhat of a shaky relationship. She didn’t help the matter any when she decided to go ahead and not follow the already-established book order. She tricked us with “Meet Kaya”, then she just went off book. She tried to redeem her self with “Changes for Kaya”, but it wasn’t enough.

7. Molly, 1944

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AG Description: “Molly McIntire brings to life the story of a patriotic girl growing up during World War Two. While she waits for her father to return from his duties as an army doctor, Molly learns to pull together for the common good.”

Why: One of the original three dolls released, my favorite part of Molly was how she rocked those shuffle-ball-changes as Miss Victory in the Red Cross show. I also enjoyed her summer story because it reminded me of The Parent Trap with Lindsay Lohan. Other than that, I’d say Molly was pretty unmemorable.

6. Kirsten, 1854

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AG Description: “Kirsten Larson brings to life the story of a girl dealing with different languages and traditions as her family settles in the New World. In time, Kristen discovers the richness of her new land — and the true meaning of home.”

Why: To be honest, it’s my mom that’s not happy with Kirsten. Kirsten the reason I tried to wear a crown of candles and almost burned down the house as I celebrated St. Lucia’s Day.

5. Samantha, 1904

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AG Description: “Samantha Parkington brings to life the story of a bright and compassionate girl who, even though some consider it improper, befriends a servant girl named Nellie. Together, they show that true friendship is what matters most.”

Why: Samantha and I got off to a really good start. She was the first American Doll I ever received, and honestly, I really wanted to be her. I mean just look at those bangs. Even though her Grandmary seemed like a nag, I loved her Christmas story and “Samantha Learns A Lesson” served some serious realness about the industrialization of cities. BUT THEN I had a dream that she turned into a psycho killer doll and my mom had to hide her in the closet for the rest of my childhood.

4. Kit, 1934

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AG Description: “Even though the Great Depression was filled with hard times for families, Kit helps hers by being resourceful. With her best friend, Ruthie, by her side, Kit figures out clever ways to make do with what she has. She also learns to treasure what money can’t buy—friends and family.”

Why: Kit is definitely someone I’d love to be friends with. She’d teach you how to be resourceful, learn how to live on a budget, and since she’s into the whole journalism thing, you know she would always have the latest gossip. You know you love me, XOXO Kit Kitteridge

3. Addy, 1864

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AG Description: “An inspirational side of the Civil War era comes to life in the courageous story of Addy Walker. Along with her mother, Addy is escaping slavery to find her father and brother, who’ve been sold away. Once Addy arrives in Philadelphia, she hopes that her family will be together again soon—and discovers that freedom isn’t always fair.”

Why: Addy was truly an inspiration. She literally escaped from slavery at the young age of nine years old (like what?!?!), learned how to read and write within a matter of weeks, and extended kindness to that snooty Harriet chick even though Harriet had been a mega-biotch to Addy.

2. Josefina, 1824

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AG Description: “From her family’s New Mexican rancho comes the story of Josefina Montoya. She’s trying to preserve what is precious after her mother’s passing. When her mother’s sister comes to live with Josefina’s family, she is overjoyed. But Josefina must learn how to remain faithful to the old ways while helping her sisters and father open up to new ones.”

Why: Major props for Josefina’s strength. She soldiers through her mother’s passing and deals Francisca, the snarky sister, and Florecita, the obnoxious goat that roams the rancho.

1. Felicity, 1774

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AG Description: “Felicity Merriman brings to life the story of a spirited girl who believes the American colonies should be free. But her best friend thinks differently, so Felicity must find a way to hold both love and loyalty in her heart.”

Why: Felicity was a BAMF, and not just because we share the same first six letters of our name. She was a straight up feminist, by questioning female norms, wearing breeches, and featuring such scandalous low cut dresses, the Pleasant Company changed the dolls bodies to flesh colored muslin rather than the previous white the dolls had been sporting. She also wasn’t afraid to take on that basic Banabelle, who clearly needed to log out of life.

Read more: http://buzzfeed.com/FeliciaFitzpatrick/the-definitive-ranking-of-the-american-girls-dolls-jbnr

Are you a good bitch, or a bad bitch?

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  1. 1. Pick a comedienne.
    1. E! ✓ Chelsea Handler
    2. Imeh Akpanudosen / Getty ✓ Margaret Cho
    1. Ilya S. Savenok / Getty ✓ Amy Poehler
    2. Twitter: @thesheertruth ✓ Sasheer Zamata
  2. 2. Which is your Bible?
  3. 3. Pick a role model.
    1. Disney ✓ Maleficent
    2. Marvel Entertainment ✓ Mystique
    1. Paramount Pictures ✓ Regina George
    2. Metro-Goldwyn-Mayer ✓ Wicked Witch of the West
  4. 4. Choose a song.
  5. 5. Pick an animal.
    1. Via Thinkstock ✓ Lioness
    2. Thinkstock ✓ Chihuahua
    1. Thinkstock ✓ Llama
    2. Thinkstock ✓ Cougar
  6. 6. Pick your poison.
  7. 7. Who do you fancy?
    1. Ilya S. Savenok / Getty ✓ Kanye West
    2. Jason Merritt / Getty ✓ Angelina Jolie
    1. Mike Coppola / Getty ✓ Jimmy Fallon
    2. John Phillips / Getty ✓ Tom Hardy
  8. 8. Pick a snack.
  9. 9. What's your signature look?
    1. disruptingdinnerparties.com ✓ Shade
    2. Disney ✓ Side-Eye
    1. NBC ✓ Eye roll
    2. Getty / Cameron Spencer ✓ Resting Bitchy Face
  10. 10. Pick a film.
  11. 11. Who needs a slap?
    1. Via Ari Perilstein / Getty ✓
    2. Larry Busacca / Getty ✓
    1. Ramin Talaie / Getty ✓
    2. Christopher Polk / Getty ✓

What Kind Of A Bitch Are You?

  1. You got: Bad Bitch

    You are the baddest kind of bitch around. You laugh in the face of danger, and then kick it in the balls.


  2. You got: Boss Bitch

    Who run the world? YOU. You are the Beyoncé of the bitch world.


  3. You got: Sassy Bitch

    Oh you SASSY, huh? You’ve got this whole hair-flip, shade-throwing, sarcastic-comeback thing NAILED.

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  4. You got: Queen Bitch

    There is nothing basic about this bitch. You know you should be treated like royalty, and you never accept anything different.

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Read more: http://buzzfeed.com/catesevilla/what-kind-of-a-bitch-are-you